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RSVP wording for every tone and every channel

Pick the tone of your invitation and where the RSVP ask will live. Each page has three variants written for exactly that combination, a generator that drops in your names, date, link and reply-by date, and the three questions that channel raises.

Free, no account. Made by Vowlist — the guest list, budget and checklist are free; the RSVP link is $79 once, no subscription.

Channel ↓ / tone →FormalClassicCasualPlayful
Printed cardA card in the invitation suite that sends guests to a link (or QR) instead of a return envelope. Print the URL in full and the reply-by date; keep a phone number for guests who will not go online.Formal · Printed cardClassic · Printed cardCasual · Printed cardPlayful · Printed card
Online inviteA digital invitation (email/e-card/website) with an RSVP button or link. Guests are already on a screen — one tap should land them on their reply, so per-household links beat a generic form.Formal · Online inviteClassic · Online inviteCasual · Online invitePlayful · Online invite
QR on the cardA details or RSVP card carrying a QR code that opens the reply page. Keep the line under the code short, print the URL as well, and test-scan a proof at real size.Formal · QR on the cardClassic · QR on the cardCasual · QR on the cardPlayful · QR on the card
Text / WhatsAppA short message from your own phone to one household at a time. This is where per-household links shine: the family taps and sees only their names. You send it — Vowlist never messages guests.Formal · Text / WhatsAppClassic · Text / WhatsAppCasual · Text / WhatsAppPlayful · Text / WhatsApp
EmailA subject line, a short body and one link — sent by you, from your own address, to one household per email if you can. Plain text lands in more inboxes than a designed template.Formal · EmailClassic · EmailCasual · EmailPlayful · Email
Save-the-dateGoes out months ahead (paper or digital). Traditionally it does not ask for a reply — "invitation to follow" — but many couples now add an early link so travelling guests can say yes early. Decide which you are doing.Formal · Save-the-dateClassic · Save-the-dateCasual · Save-the-datePlayful · Save-the-date

How to pick

Formal: Third person, no contractions, "the favour of a reply". For black-tie, traditional or family-hosted weddings.

Classic: Warm and traditional in the first person — "we would love you to join us". The safe default for most invitations.

Casual: Relaxed, contractions, plain asks — "can you make it?". Backyard, brunch, city-hall-plus-dinner.

Playful: Light, a little cheeky, still clear about the ask and the date. Works when your guests know your humour.

Whatever the tone, every reply ask needs the same three things: who is being asked (address the household), by when (a date — the deadline calculator works it out), and where (one link, printed in full or behind a QR code from the QR generator). The generator on each page keeps those three visible whatever else you cut.

The link the wording points to

Vowlist gives every household its own RSVP link: the family taps it, sees only their names, picks who is coming and what they eat, done — no app, no account, and we never email or message guests. Guest list, budget and checklist are free; the RSVP link is $79 once. See the guest page → · Start free →